Welcome! I’m Shelly.
If I had to assign a label to my parenting approach, it would be INTENTIONAL. I believe the best parenting choices are the ones we make on purpose, the ones that align with our personal values and deepest intentions. More often than not, these types of choices are not what parents instinctively default to. Becoming an intentional parent requires putting in the work to know yourself and your child with a higher degree of consciousness.
The educator in me also believes in centering an approach to discipline around clear learning objectives and long-term goals. Any approach to discipline that glosses over learning and skill development is ineffective. This is why the very heart of my approach is TEACHING.
While society tends to depend on classroom teachers to instruct children in things like reading, math, and science, parents are the principal teachers of social, emotional, and behavioral skills, whether they want to be or not. In my opinion, these skills are the ones that matter most when we look at our children’s long-term well-being.
At the root of every struggle with your child is a skill that needs to be taught.
Good teachers are experts in the principles of learning and the ability to authoritatively guide and manage behaviors. These are also the foundations of intentional, effective parenting.
My work is centered around these two pillars and gives parents the tools to become the principal teacher in their child’s life.
Many parents I’ve helped have told me that my approach fills in the gaps of other gentle/respectful/conscious parenting styles. They often feel that positive parenting resources leave them without tools for effective and supportive discipline. Parents are desperate for an approach that builds connection with their children AND empowers the parent to be a confident and authoritative teacher. This unique approach is what you’ll get from me.
